A good way to get her to open up, at least for me, is to sort of make a secure connection with her.
Funny you should mention geisha she is actually Asian, traditional too might explain also why she is so reserved and quiet it's in their culture.
As far as no affection that isn't entirely true what I mean is the typical Cancer affection which is lavishing them with compliments about how sexy they are how they are the best person in the world, ect ect.
So far all I have gotten are "awwwww"'s and you are such a sweet guy, got any tips..I just going to have to wait it out are you every passionate and affectionate?
a) hiya refreshing to read questions aimed at us Virgirls, I'm sure you'll get a PLETHORA of answers (and some questions asked of you , as some of us are dating Cancer men ourselves) b) I'm really sorry about your painful experience with the Scorpio c) "So far I think I have done things right, I haven't shown any real affection" - that is not "right".
As far as dominant goes, that is why I am letting her in on the planning of things.
I told her that I like things to be 50/50 with each person being unique with their own great ideas and I want her ideas to be apart of things.Also, look out for things she does for you rather than "to" you.Like, watch the things she says, if she's trying to take care of you in some way, and watch her body language.When you gauge these, you can get an insight as to how she's feeling and such.Some virgos are better about showing there affections that actions that aren't related to touch and words.Last person that really loved me was a 6 year relationship with a Cap woman but I got bored and bailed on it like a typical cancer would.