It’s only fair to be straightforward instead of dropping bombs later because some people may not be okay with dating people with children.
You can still date someone with children, but there is a way to be responsible without affecting the child.
It is important to remember that you are dating him, his kids. If it’s just a casual situation or the beginning stages where the two of you are still trying to figure each other out, there’s no need to stress or obsess over his responsibilities. For those of you dating with kids, I understand that sometimes you don’t disclose that information because you want to have a social life and would like to keep certain things separate, but honestly, everything will eventually overlap once things pick up with the person you are dating.
If he has a child, what type of dealings does he have with the child’s mother? How would that potentially affect you in terms of dating?
If avoiding drama with the mother doesn’t seem doable, then run for the hills and never look back.
But until then, accept that his child is his first priority.
Dating a guy with kids definitely gave me a different perspective when it comes to my preferences.He will make time for you if he’s truly invested in getting to know you.But NEVER think it’s okay to put him in a position where he has to choose between spending time with his kid or quality time with you.For example, unless things are getting serious between the two of you, you shouldn’t feel obligated to spend time with his child.If it’s just casual dating, then you need to remember that you are just dating him.Again, while I liked him, I learned that he was not an upfront person, and Still, I learned a lot from that situation.