(See Rule 2) 8) Do NOT assume that if your girlfriend becomes pregnant that she will discontinue her music career and stay at home. 9) Understand that your girlfriend will be hit on by men (and women) every time she gigs out. 10) Do NOT start wearing a leather wrist cuff and Affliction T-shirts just because your girlfriend is in a band. 11) Do NOT tell your girlfriend that what she is doing is only “a hobby”.
Do not get get jealous when your boyfriend/girlfriend talks to groupies. Don’t follow him/her around at the show while he/she is taking care of business/networking. (Unless invited.) Do not assume that everyone loves your boyfriend’s/girlfriend’s bands. The shirt is fine, but the hat, koozie, hoodie, and stickers on your ass is a bitch much. Do not complain when your special day gets cancelled because a gig has been booked. It is hard enough to fund a tour, and you will just be another person to feed for the night. If the band has an out of town gig, do not come along to have alone time. It takes awhile to tear down, load up, get paid, go back to the practice room to unload, have a beer, chill and talk about the show. 5) Do NOT assume that your girlfriend is sleeping with her bandmates.Female musicians get a front row seat to the “trampesty” that is the dating habits of the male musician.If you don’t have friends, do yourself a favor and make some. Relax.) 23) DO call/text her, and respond to her calls/texts when she’s on the road.
19) Bands are often booked on holidays and weekends. Shows are generally booked 3 or more weeks in advance. 20) It is acceptable and preferred that you do not attend every show. If she’s dating you and she’s great at what she does, be prepared for some institutional-grade crazy from time to time. Separation is rough on any relationship, and she probably misses you just as much as you miss her.
Although I’m down for a good cry with a bottle of wine and ‘P. I Love You’ any day of the week, Friday and Saturday nights are reserved for something MUCH better.
I like to be out, I like to be on stage, I like to be the center of attention, I like to wear a lot of liquid black eyeliner and I like to do it as often as humanly possible.
Please, for the love of god, go find something else to do on the weekends. (She’s essentially trapped in a van with 3-4 other guys who haven’t showered and living on a diet of Doritos and grape Fanta.
It has famously been said that, “writing about music is like dancing about architecture,” and rightfully so.
After reading it, I couldn’t help but think about all the different events I’ve experienced while trying to date men who aren’t musicians/entertainers.