Then slowly, teasingly, he slid his hand up under my dress to touch me. I shook my head and released another sigh, much heavier this time. It’s easy to understand the appeal and motivation: You spend more time at work than anywhere else, and you get to know people on a very personal level.
Ultimately, you have been hired to accomplish certain tasks for your company or organization.
If working in close proximity to your love interest makes it tough to keep your personal life from affecting your professional productivity, then dating a co-worker might not be the best choice.
(He really was very attractive and definitely my type. )My mind ran through the various flirtations we enjoyed throughout the evening, but I quickly fast-forwarded to the end of the night. A 2012 survey shows that upwards of 59 percent of respondents have been involved with a co-worker at some point in their career. He met Michelle Obama at a Chicago law firm they both worked at.
Sitting next to him on the company chartered bus (amidst other co-workers, mind you), he innocently rested his hand on my knee. I was shocked at how much I wanted it, and how much I liked it. I had to stay quiet so no one would notice us, and I felt my breath grow more shallow at the thought. Our relationship crossed every line and every boundary, and we definitely didn’t stop there. (She was his supervisor.)Obviously, they are one of the success stories.
I sighed and closed my eyes as Lana Del Rey’s sultry voice made love to the lyrics of her song, “American.”It was the summer of 2013, and I was newly obsessed with her music.
As the tracks changed and “Burning Desire” slid into my background noise, I felt the memories from my office party subconsciously creep into my mind for at least the 50th time. Keeping my eyes firmly shut, I lazily browsed the highlight reel of the night: how it felt to be so close to him all night, his arm around me, his fingers eagerly gripping my waist and us enjoying the atmosphere and each other’s company.I myself had previously dabbled in office flings, but none had been serious.I never understood the saying, “Don’t sh*t where you eat.”Suffice it to say, I understand now. When I first started at my former company, Seth* and I barely spoke, unless it was out of necessity. I didn’t mind him (and I don’t think he minded me, either).You also bring to a new relationship a shared “world,” complete with friends, colleagues, goals, and even values. Will your relationship become topic of office gossip? There’s also the matter of how your dating relationship might impact job performance.If you become distracted by the excitement of your new romance—or distraught if that relationship goes awry—will you be less effective?After all, it’s where most people spend more than half of our waking hours.