For example, someone might ask a partner with cold sores if they would be willing to use suppressive therapy before starting to have unprotected oral sex.
People who experience dating violence are at increased risk of getting an STD.
For many people, one of the scariest things about learning they have a sexually transmitted disease (STD) is the thought of dating with it. They may question how to talk about their diagnosis with a new or existing partner.
It also increases the risk of someone saying something they'll regret. Others save the conversation for before physical intimacy, but after they've determined a potential partner is someone they feel safe talking to.
Still others put it on the table even before going on a first date.
Either way, it's important to think about your concerns and preferences clearly.
There's nothing wrong with deciding to stop having safe sex with a partner.
In addition, dating isn't about whether you have a particular bacterial or viral infection.
Everyone's tolerance for STD risk is different.
That would take the burden of disclosure off people who know they have an STD.
Instead, everyone would come to the table with something to say.
Still, if you have internalized STD stigma, it can be hard to get over. It's hard to find someone to love you when you have trouble loving yourself.
One thing that can help is interacting with other people who have dealt with STD stigma and come out the other side.
The hardest part of STD dating is dealing with stigma.