One would include those of her intended and his late spouse, and the next wall would be a continuation of pictures of the life they were leading.
Simply ask your questions respectfully, so it is not regarded as prying but as a genuine interest in the deceased spouse and their relationship.
If you pay close attention, you actually may learn many interesting things about your new partner, for example: how he/she views the world; how he/she treats a partner; likes and dislikes, etc.
Take pause and ask yourself if you would rather your new partner didn't care about his/her late spouse.
You might consider the fact that the better the relationship a new partner had in a past relationship, the more he/she knows about how to make unions work.
It is so natural for him/her because that is where they have always been.
It has not even dawned on him/her that another person might find the pictures intimidating.
You can gently drop some hints about the pictures, especially if they are on the bed stand table.
If there are children and some of the pictures are family pictures, it is probably unrealistic to think that every picture will be put away.
If circumstances require that you move into the home shared with a late spouse, it would be beneficial to have a frank discussion about what can be changed to make you feel as if it is your home too.
It is at this time that you can negotiate about the items he/she would like to keep around.
TALKING ABOUT A LATE SPOUSE: SHOULD YOU ASK QUESTIONS? If a couple were married at a young age, married a long time, or have children/grandchildren, it is going to be very difficult to talk about his/her life without mentioning a late spouse.