"I was forced not to put my life on hold for him." Perfect, right?
Are some people punctual and others slow as molasses?You notice this kind of thing a lot more when your memory is fresh than when you’re comparing your date today to someone you dated six months ago.Emily, 28, who was my grandmother's worst nightmare—a woman who became fixated on each new flavor of the month without keeping perspective.So she decided to try a little man-juggling."I would date a guy and if I liked him, start picturing our wedding within the first three dates," she admits. Every invite I got would become, 'Oh, I can invite him to this.' Every dress I bought would be, 'Oh, I can wear this in front of him.' And this would go on and on for three month cycles or so." She consciously tried to break this habit by dating more than one person at a time.Grandma's concern was about weighting your options instead of driving yourself nuts and obsessing over just one man.
Not investing all your time, energy, and emotions into any single man, no matter how much he's convinced you he's Mr. You simply don't have time to fret about how much time he's fretting about you if you're simultaneously dating Mr. Just-Okay, too."If you are looking for a serious relationship, then you should absolutely be dating more than one man at once..."But some people date around because they are needy." Instead of worrying about how many dates you have and it being a balancing act, Wygant suggests women "date from feelings.Know what you want ahead of time so you aren't getting too invested. You should have a personal list."Ladies love lists, but Wygant says he's talking about a different kind.Is one guy or gal a little more thoughtful than the rest?Is there one person whose jokes crack you up more than all the others?"My friend suggested I date more than one person at a time for my own good, and I met Adam and I started seeing the pattern happening again, but I forced myself to break it.