And as a disproportionate few make fortunes, leaving tens of millions of ordinary people behind, many women see marrying a rich man as a short-cut to wealth.
^|^ Brook Larmer wrote in the New York Times, “Three decades of combustive economic growth have reshaped the landscape of marriage in China.
“There is lots written in the state media about how all these tens of millions of unmarried men pose a threat to society.But at the other end of the spectrum, unmarried women who are not fulfilling their 'duty to the nation’ by getting married and having children are also seen as a threat.” As it has moved from communism towards a freer economy China has become a richer – and also increasingly unequal – society.It is often said – only half-jokingly – that to compete even at the lower reaches of the urban Chinese dating market men must have at least a car and a flat.The matchmaking industry has gone into overdrive, not just to cater to the rich but also because of government unease over the numbers of older single professional women.[Source: Clarissa Sebag-Montefiore, The Telegraph, October 22, 2013 ^|^] “Although forced or arranged marriage was banned in 1950, finding a partner remains a formal process for many.“Marriage is seen as a factor in promoting social stability,” explains Leta Hong Fincher, the author of a forthcoming book on “leftover women” and gender inequality in China.Some colleges require married students to live apart while they are enrolled.
Most parents don’t want their children to date in high school or the first two years of university. Even so many highschool students and some middle class students have boyfriends and girlfriends.She shouldn’t be with me and other men at the same time.” Asian-style dating often involves groups of young women and young men going out together in group for a meal or for a drink, or to a karaoke.If they go to a nightclub, men and women dance together in a group.This may be a time of sexual and romantic liberation in China, but the solemn task of finding a husband or wife is proving to be a vexing proposition for rich and poor alike.“The old family and social networks that people used to rely on for finding a husband or wife have fallen apart,” said James Farrer, an American sociologist whose book, “Opening Up,” looks at sex, dating and marriage in contemporary China.When one middle school girl was asked if she had boy friend she told National Geographic, “There’s a boy who likes me.