I vaugely recall reading about switching the ring to the right hand, too. I have no desire to date, despite what friends and family suggest, as I am relatively young (43 yrs).
I wore it for 6 months and then put it into storage.
My life changed so profoundly that keeping a (to me) meaningless artifact tied me too firmly to the past. My understanding is similar to Miss Manners', in that when one feels ready to date again, one moves one's wedding ring to the ring finger of the right hand, from the ring finger of the left.
I recall encountering, during my misspent youth, a custom that a widow or widower should, some time after the death of the spouse, change the finger on which the wedding ring is worn.
Can anybody give me more information on this custom--which finger, how long before the change over, history of the custom, and so forth? There is no need to move the ring at all, if the person doesn't want to.
I'm not saying that you're mistaken in anyway, but this sounds exceptional.
I was married in Leon, and in Leon and Asturias, left hand is unheard of except from watching American television.
The question was not whether or not it was proper for a widow/widower to move their wedding ring to a new finger, but whether or not it was customary at some time in the past for spouses of the deceased to do so.
I'm curious about this question as well, since I've never heard of such a custom.
This is true whether I'm wearing the necklace or not, but wearing it helps because it's physical, it has weight and meaning to me.
I realize this thread is more about custom, tradition, etiquette - but my point is, it's up to the individual.
My understanding is similar to Miss Manners', in that when one feels ready to date again, one moves one's wedding ring to the ring finger of the right hand, from the ring finger of the left. This practice was also never promoted by recognized etiquette, although it was sometimes adopted (more often by divorcees than by widows, actually). (The traditional "official" nomenclature for a divorced woman was to use "Mrs." with her maiden name in place of her ex-husband's first name---as in "Mrs. John Smith"---but that just made things even more confusing, so it died out.) I was widowed August 28, 2011 and I still wear my wedding ring because I still feel married.