In the French guy’s mind, that kiss means you want to be his girlfriend and be exclusive.To you, things might be more casual and you view him as just one of the guys you’re dating, but watch out.It is the case with any rule, but even more so with dating, especially because too many people assume that dating is .
If you’ve found a keeper, want to test the waters, or are just curious…When Tom and I first started dating, I didn’t know any of these French dating rules and found them out after or through others who were dating French guys.What you should be alarmed over is if you go out and he doesn’t call. If he’s not calling you or texting you, it’s not a game — he’s just not interested.Americans might find the French guy’s call frequency charming or maybe a tad overbearing if you’re not that into him. It might be uncomfortable but it’s a lot better than assuming something or letting him assume something which leaves one or both of you hurt and confused.It would probably confuse him if he saw you with someone else a few days later.
The “talk” about exclusivity doesn’t seem all that common and the kiss pretty much says, “We are together.” Persistence is the name of the game here.
But if you’ve gone out with a guy a few times and you haven’t kissed him yet, think things through before you plant one on him under the Eiffel Tower for fun.
What might be an innocent kiss to you in the moment is probably much more to him.
French guys are used to being turned down by French girls, who are known for playing hard to get.
So if you’re asked out and say no and mean no, be prepared for him to ask you out a couple of more times.
Every relationship is different, though, so please don’t take my little guide below as the end all and be all of French dating.