Who pays in a dating relationship

Regardless of your feelings on the matter, whatever you do, don't leave the house without enough money to pay for at least your share.

It's a first date so while he may seem great (and generous) on paper, you never really know what you're getting into until he's sitting across from you.

What to say: "That's so generous of you -- can I at least leave the tip?

" What not to say: "Let's have the 2000 Perrier-Jouet, since this one's on you!

Incredibly (to me), most women I spoke to thought I was an idiot and firmly believed the dude should always pay on a first date -- though for some this was a recent change of heart.

Kate, a 33-year-old writer told me, "I tend to try to pay for myself, but as I get older and more comfortable with my awesomeness, I kind of wish and hope that the other person will be a little more old-fashioned about it." Good point.

Before women entered the workforce in large numbers, it made practical sense for men to pay for dates.

It was a way for them to prove that they could be good providers, and women simply didn’t have their own money.

But today, the number of men and women in the workforce is roughly equal, and in most marriages, both husbands and wives are providers. Even though the study found that the same basic patterns held true no matter the participants income or education, younger people in their 20s were the most likely to embrace a more egalitarian approach to dating. Don’t get me wrong: I was charmed that my son’s instinct was to do something nice for his new girlfriend.

But as he moves through high school, college, and life, I want him to know that relationships are best when all of their components—emotional, physical, and financial—are shared.

" What to say: "That's so generous of you -- can I at least leave the tip?

" What not to say: "This princess doesn't pay for food!

I've always been under the impression that once you're in a relationship you should split most of the bills. Dating is when it is courteous for the man to pick up the bill.